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Hasidic trans activist shares story

She was born a boy in one of the most gender-segregated cultures. This is Abby Stein’s story of transition.

A story of a trans individual to be share them widely

Trans activist Abby Stein was born a boy in Brooklyn in a Hasidic community — one of the world's most gender-segregated cultures. Growing up, she says her community noticed something different about her. But her parents had her life mapped out for her — as the first son in her family, she would become a rabbi and get married at 18. After her son’s birth in 2012, she went online for the first time and realized she needed to leave her community.

Abby Stein knows her life story is a bit novel

“I know that my before and after pictures are more radical than most before and after pictures to no credit of my own, simply because of where I was born. And I think it's very easy for people to just read this and see it as a cool story. But I really want this to be a story that people can relate to. I'm talking to an extreme, — like since 5-6 years old, people were being raised as boys are told not to talk with people being raised as girls. The entire education system literally from preschool, is segregated by gender. I think there were two major motivators behind this idea of becoming a rabbi. Part of me really wanted to do my best and really believe that maybe if I invest everything that I have in being the best Hasidic person that I could think of, all these questions that I have in all these struggles that I have, I'm just going to go away.

**Rebelling against tradition **

She wasn’t alone in this kind of journey. LGBTQIA organizations and nonprofits like Footsteps — which helps people leaving the ultra-Orthodox community — gave her support. She then had to learn everything about the American culture. She started her physical transition and officially came out in 2015. Now she's an activist and has written a memoir.

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01/13/2020 12:59 PM

223 comments

  • Sarah E.
    02/01/2020 03:41

    I'm just curious why men care whether or not a female accepts a transgender as a female? Since y'all are not women why does it bother y'all if it has nothing to do with you? Unless your saying you want the transgender women to be considered males. If that's how you view men....

  • Merliza R.
    02/01/2020 01:03

    He was born a boy, HE!

  • Logan H.
    02/01/2020 00:49

    Why am I seeing this?!

  • Oliver W.
    01/31/2020 19:15

    Keep in mind jews are the ones funding the gay agenda.this person is mental ill

  • Mary K.
    01/31/2020 14:57

    Still a boy.

  • Brandon W.
    01/31/2020 14:45

    “Abby” is still a boy, you can’t just magically change genders. No matter how much you really want to believe, it doesn’t work that way. You have male, female, and people who like to mutilate their body to appear as the opposite sex. It doesn’t matter what surgery they have, they don’t have the matching organs for reproduction.

  • Michael S.
    01/31/2020 13:46

    Hey everybody! She may be onto something, folks! If a person in his 50s, wishes to be 23 again, that means they can legally do so and everyone has to accept that. There just happens to be a one problem with that assumption-reality soon starts to kick in. Why is it that it is only progressive who want to ignore reality?

  • Alan L.
    01/31/2020 06:05

    And he still looks like a guy....

  • Bobbie S.
    01/31/2020 05:35

    You are still a man !

  • Thomas W.
    01/31/2020 05:30

    Still a boy

  • Shannon M.
    01/31/2020 05:16

    Growing hair and applying lipstick is not going to change biological gender. Male and female are not interchangeable.

  • Liam W.
    01/31/2020 02:14

    Stop trying to subvert our culture and stop normalizing mental illness.

  • Je C.
    01/31/2020 01:54

    and this is why so many are against these types of schools

  • Larry M.
    01/31/2020 01:20

    See what happens when you let the insane run the asylum!!

  • Nicholas B.
    01/30/2020 17:33

    You gotta love the comments from the ignorant keyboard warriors. Pick up a science book or medical journal from the last ten years and learn something, bigots.

  • Elijah-Faith C.
    01/30/2020 17:31

    You couldn't accept who you were but expect others to accept who you imagine yourself to be? This is hypocritical and self depreciating. Repent and Turn to Jesus Christ sir.

  • Derek D.
    01/30/2020 17:07

    Goddammit brut

  • Tyler P.
    01/30/2020 14:13

    Nah, his rabbi did "something" to him. That's why he's like this now 😂

  • Mary K.
    01/30/2020 14:02

    For the love of God be what the hell you were born as

  • Brandon C.
    01/30/2020 13:09

    Still a man

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