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Hasidic trans activist shares story

She was born a boy in one of the most gender-segregated cultures. This is Abby Stein’s story of transition.

A story of a trans individual to be share them widely

Trans activist Abby Stein was born a boy in Brooklyn in a Hasidic community — one of the world's most gender-segregated cultures. Growing up, she says her community noticed something different about her. But her parents had her life mapped out for her — as the first son in her family, she would become a rabbi and get married at 18. After her son’s birth in 2012, she went online for the first time and realized she needed to leave her community.

Abby Stein knows her life story is a bit novel

“I know that my before and after pictures are more radical than most before and after pictures to no credit of my own, simply because of where I was born. And I think it's very easy for people to just read this and see it as a cool story. But I really want this to be a story that people can relate to. I'm talking to an extreme, — like since 5-6 years old, people were being raised as boys are told not to talk with people being raised as girls. The entire education system literally from preschool, is segregated by gender. I think there were two major motivators behind this idea of becoming a rabbi. Part of me really wanted to do my best and really believe that maybe if I invest everything that I have in being the best Hasidic person that I could think of, all these questions that I have in all these struggles that I have, I'm just going to go away.

**Rebelling against tradition **

She wasn’t alone in this kind of journey. LGBTQIA organizations and nonprofits like Footsteps — which helps people leaving the ultra-Orthodox community — gave her support. She then had to learn everything about the American culture. She started her physical transition and officially came out in 2015. Now she's an activist and has written a memoir.

Brut.

01/13/2020 12:59 PM
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163 comments

  • Micah M.
    6 hours

    Modern-day Mata Hari jumped on the bandwagon of how to achieve fame and fortune quick and easy.

  • Charles G.
    7 hours

    Gross

  • Debbie W.
    13 hours

    You were born a male!! Nothing can change that!! You may have female parts, but you are still a male!! God doesn't make mistakes!!!

  • Joanie P.
    13 hours

    God does NOT make mistakes!!!!’

  • Joan W.
    17 hours

    It doesn't matter about what you feel you are, it's about what God made who you are. God makes you a certain gender he has the word. No one should ever question your identity because of a feeling. Feeling are flighty, irresponsible, they are untrue to one's self, and causes great pain to one self if not brought under control. Can you imagine a world with everyone doing what everyone feels is right. Total chaos and evil would run rampant. Stop this Insanity.

  • Chel W.
    17 hours

    I celebrate the fact that the haters commenting are the minority with fear issues and their backward unaccepting ways are dying out quickly.

  • Paul A.
    a day

    Oh pleeease.

  • Mark F.
    a day

    Confused.

  • Thayne S.
    a day

    horse pucky

  • Jon R.
    a day

    YOU CAN BE A MAN DRESSED AS A WOMAN... BUT THAT DOESNT MEAN YOURE A WOMAN. NOT AT ALL.....

  • Hope I.
    a day

    I'm crying this came up sponsored in my feed and i ❤️❤️❤️

  • Lora M.
    a day

    Hearing her story made me think of you!

  • Susan S.
    a day

    He is still a man even if he pretends to be a female.

  • Chuck H.
    a day

    It's not a cool story. Your still a dude and shouldnt be applauded for expressing your confusion publicly. Just saying

  • Joe R.
    a day

    Pretty judaic stuff! Not for me 😎

  • Nelson H.
    a day

    Share

  • Erich A.
    a day

    Something broken here

  • Brent F.
    a day

    Still a man albeit a very disturbed one

  • Lorna M.
    2 days

    He's a man. Born a man, will die a man.

  • Cheryl K.
    2 days

    Just keep doing you girl, have a wonderful life and be happy!!