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Why This Mom Doesn’t Post Photos of Her Daughter

Babies can't consent to what their parents post on the 'Gram — that's why this mom wants to talk about children's privacy and their digital footprint. 👶🤳

Less Sharing is Caring

While most children have a digital footprint before their 2nd birthday — this mom didn't want that for her daughter. Writer Sara Gaynes Levy and her husband don't post photos of their daughter on social media. In their first few years, babies are routinely exposed online — naturally, without their knowledge.

“My husband had asked me while I was pregnant with our daughter if I would be OK with not posting her online and at first, I was really kind of taken aback by the question. I post a lot on social media. He gave me a lot of reasons that he felt it was an invasion of her privacy. He felt like she didn't have the ability to consent to her image being out there, especially when I'm living my life kind of in a public way. It felt really isolating at first because when your baby is a newborn, you’re in your home so much, especially as a mom, you're trapped under a baby that you're feeding and really all you have is your phone as a lifeline to the world.”

“My personal platform is not that parents need to stop posting their kids altogether, but I think it is a valuable exercise to think about what it would be like if you Google yourself now and found out that all your bath time photos were online. Not even bath time photos — everything you ever did was hashtagged and archived. She'll never have to go through that moment of being like, “You need to scrub the internet of me, Mom. I can't believe how embarrassing this is.” Obviously, I'm sure I'll do plenty of other embarrassing things, but it's a big relief to know that that's never a conversation we're gonna have to have.”

Gaynes Levy says friends and family now directly ask her about her daughter’s milestones. She says it also forced her to highlight other aspects of her life. Gaynes Levy occasionally includes her daughter in her posts. She says parents should have a conversation about the digital footprint they’re creating.

Brut.

07/13/2019 10:19 AM
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157 comments

  • Syed A.
    07/13/2019 10:39

    So it's a big deal if parents post pictures of themselves with their children. Pretty sure it won't hurt their kids' privacies too much.

  • Emőke G.
    07/13/2019 10:48

    Yeah, cause it's not funny at all, holding a baby with a hilarious smileyface, it won't be akward at all for them to see those pics when they grow up. 😂😂😂 How would you like to have pictures online, with some smiley face instead your own head? :))

  • Brut
    07/13/2019 11:12

    Read more about Sara's decision not to post photos of her daughter on social media: https://www.glamour.com/story/mom-wont-post-childs-photo-on-social-media

  • Anna G.
    07/13/2019 12:48

    Go get a life !!!

  • Vince M.
    07/13/2019 13:46

    She look crazy

  • Omar I.
    07/13/2019 14:00

    Were they brought into this world with their 'consent'?

  • Adelaide S.
    07/13/2019 14:40

    Love this! What did our parents do when we were born? They took pictures, put them in a book and showed someone if they asked. There is no need to share your baby to the world.

  • Melanie K.
    07/13/2019 14:49

    Ummm...WHAT!?!

  • Claude A.
    07/13/2019 14:51

    i always ask my baby before publishing. always agree

  • Tiffany H.
    07/13/2019 15:00

    Shes probably with the Australian lady who thinks you need concent to change a babies diaper....🤦‍♀️ these people now days.

  • Amel d.
    07/13/2019 15:06

    Okay you guys are taking consent too far. Now it’s getting ridiculous. The only thing you shouldn’t be spreading about your kid is their business. Taking pictures with and of your kids and posting them is not bad. Since when did everyone get so sensitive with consent? Unless it involves sexual activity then just calm down. No need to get pissy over it.

  • Mahfuz A.
    07/13/2019 16:02

    Attention seekers these days

  • Alexandros B.
    07/13/2019 16:41

    Some serious crazy eyes

  • Fahad R.
    07/13/2019 17:21

    Asking my cat consent if he wants to be bathed right now.

  • Gabriela C.
    07/13/2019 17:22

    I think that you expose your children since birth to all the toxicity in social media. A lot of people can be mean, so I think I would just create an album just for family and the closest friends, and that's it. There's no need a stranger or someone you barely know has access to your kids pics.

  • Magdalena S.
    07/13/2019 17:37

    I post 90% of my photos on stories, so within 24h they don't exist (unless someone make a screenshot), my stories are available only to my close friends, so that is about 40 people.

  • Kryz C.
    07/13/2019 17:46

    our agreement

  • Lee S.
    07/13/2019 18:16

    I don't think children of any age, whether they consent or not, should have their picture posted on the Internet. It is to easy for a pedophile to find out where you live.

  • Matteo R.
    07/13/2019 18:36

    Worlds gone so mad it's unreal way to sensitive for my Likeing

  • Burris D.
    07/13/2019 20:52

    Anu Liu