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Fighting Loneliness with Tea and Strangers

An epidemic of loneliness is hitting millennials hardest — which is just one reason why Tea With Strangers is helping people meet each other offline. 🍵

Meeting a bunch of strangers from the Internet for tea

5 strangers, 1 host, a 2-hour conversation — over tea. This is how Ankit Shah brings people together for meaningful conversations — and help those who may feel lonely. Shah started Tea with Strangers when he was in college in 2013. Tea with Strangers hosts two-hour meetups at cafes in 15 cities in the U.S. and one in Nairobi (soon to be 25 total), including Boston, New York and Seattle in the U.S. Participants can discuss anything from politics to romance for the duration. The conversation is led by a volunteer host, who also organizes the event. He says 50,000 people have come to a teatime.

“I think when we're moving too quickly, it can be difficult to find the patience to slow down and to look at someone in the eye and actually ask how are you, really? When you actually create the space for that kind of dialogue, I think that's when you're most likely to find it. Usually it's at a cafe or a park and people will show up with no knowledge of who else is coming. And what happens from there is really kind of the melding of five or six stories from completely different people, from completely different walks of life, and they learn about each other. The reason it's called Tea with Strangers is that drinking tea is slow. It takes time to steep, you sip it slowly. You're not necessarily drinking tea because you're in a rush and that's really what the conversation is like. The conversation is meant to be taken slow. To be patient. To look someone in the eyes and to listen,” owner Ankit Shah tells Brut.

A poll by YouGov found that 30% of millennials feel lonely — the highest percentage of all generations. Studies have linked loneliness to weakened immune systems, increased risk of heart disease, and cognitive decline. Some of the people who meet at teatime do stay in touch.

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10/29/2019 10:23 AM
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30 comments

  • Ruben A.
    12/22/2019 19:06

    checkout this interview :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lkzsQXuZoUs

  • Henry S.
    11/24/2019 22:49

    Lim teh mo? There you have it... In my country, if this word spoken... More than 2 hours..

  • Anthony D.
    11/23/2019 07:42

    You do this same thing with God we don’t see him but He is there and He is listening you won’t hear Him responding for this 1/2 hour or 3 hours but the movement you stand up and walk you shall notice the holy way he starts to respond God bless

  • Roberto H.
    11/23/2019 06:57

    Good Idea

  • Ine T.
    11/21/2019 21:14

    There is a SOLUTION for people who are LONELY CONNECT WITH JESUS CHRIST!!!

  • Ine T.
    11/21/2019 21:12

    Too RISKY nowadays with STRANGERS

  • Ine T.
    11/21/2019 21:11

    Won't mind talking to them but will not drink TEA with STRANGERS prefer to drink TEA with people I know!

  • Davana H.
    11/20/2019 23:28

    JUST VISIT BONAIRE

  • Felician M.
    11/15/2019 14:13

    BUT HOW THE YOUNG IN THE PAST YEARS DEAL WITH ISSUES?

  • Angela C.
    11/14/2019 23:38

    .

  • Magdalena I.
    11/14/2019 00:55

    Very important

  • Shahida M.
    11/13/2019 17:31

    We need more this

  • Angella K.
    11/12/2019 14:22

    He is probably from India, because the way he speaks is just very unique. This is way of having a meaningful conversation.

  • Saima S.
    11/12/2019 13:03

    Thank God we have the culture where we can connect to any body around us...

  • Hank E.
    11/11/2019 02:14

    we need more of this

  • AsHish S.
    11/08/2019 16:22

    Google says their site is not secure though...

  • Vicki H.
    11/08/2019 01:35

    This is great. So many don’t have anyone to talk to and get so lonesome and depressed

  • Noureddine B.
    11/06/2019 12:50

    Would be amazing if they put menus for ''conversation topics''. A waiter would orient u to the table discussing that topic and bring u ur tea along.

  • Tania K.
    11/06/2019 10:50

    flop idea

  • Lindel B.
    11/05/2019 00:02

    Beautiful story. I’ve saved to my tea page. 🙏