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Meet a woman who married herself

"I'm married to myself because I think that's where every relationship begins." Here’s why some women are choosing self-marriage.

Instead of a groom

Erika Anderson is married to herself. While not legally recognized, self-marriage is a form of empowerment. Since 1990, marriage has declined by 8% while divorce rates have tripled according to reports from The Pew Center.

Undoing the patriarchy that ascribes value to women and assigned it to herself

“I think different people use different terms, self-partnership, self-marriage. But yeah, I'm married to myself because I think that's where every relationship begins. And also, there's so much pressure to be with someone else to prove that you're okay and that nothing is wrong with you. And I think that's a pretty awful reason to be with someone else. So, I partnered up. I’ve often heard since I left my marriage that I’m a “catch.” So, I decided that today I’m catching myself. So, thank you for being here for this sort of ridiculous stunt, but also meaningful thing, too. Women have more economic freedom than ever before, we're marrying later, we're not getting married, we're having kids later, we're not having kids. We just have so much choice in a way that we've never had it before. And so, essentially why use that time or that freedom to just be narrowly focused on finding a soulmate or "Mr. Right," or "whoever Right." And yeah, I was like, "Oh, why don't I just use that freedom to marry myself?" Like I wanted to tell myself that I was enough, that I didn't have to be on this constant search for someone else in the picture”, Erika Anderson tells Brut.

Destroying the institution of marriage

A growing number of young women are using self-marriage to negate the idea that their worth is tied to partnership. Anderson's untraditional ceremony involved a wedding dress, vows, a bracelet instead of rings.

Brut.

01/12/2020 10:57 AM

56 comments

  • Saif A.
    12/30/2020 06:43

    Scientists and Historians: We are living in the most advanced era since the earth was born. Le thia Lady: 🤭

  • Jeremiah S.
    12/29/2020 13:16

    You can argue with yourself about what you are going to eat.

  • Dan D.
    12/29/2020 02:12

    Ugh....how did an entire generation become so self involved and whiny 😫...ugh -

  • Daniel W.
    12/28/2020 17:45

    Did you make sweet love to yourself

  • Sara B.
    12/28/2020 11:01

    🤦🏻‍♀️

  • Ozy M.
    12/28/2020 03:23

    Something wrong with you.!! ..Almighty God created us in pairs and in pairs we will be in hereafter..!!!☝️

  • Mel O.
    12/28/2020 00:58

    I wonder how your children will look like?

  • Helene B.
    12/27/2020 20:22

    Good for you girl !!!

  • Russ T.
    12/27/2020 14:18

    Nutter!!

  • Syed A.
    12/27/2020 14:00

    That's a nice way to say you're still single and no one even wants to look at you. 😂 I think I should follow her example

  • Suman T.
    12/27/2020 13:43

    last option??

  • James A.
    12/27/2020 10:38

    Woow Amazing

  • Ariff A.
    12/27/2020 10:30

    wait till she divorce with herself..👀👀

  • Luke A.
    12/27/2020 09:33

    Sounds like being single with extra steps

  • Andre P.
    12/27/2020 09:18

    OK but what did this single married couple smoke

  • Fatema A.
    12/27/2020 08:00

    see told ya it’s not a bad idea afterall. 🤷🏻‍♀️😞

  • Foura A.
    12/27/2020 06:57

    Stop making people with mental issues famous.

  • Mafaka H.
    12/27/2020 06:42

    33 here... still masturbate a lot

  • Chelsey M.
    12/27/2020 05:15

    genius

  • Yakov B.
    12/27/2020 04:26

    that's fine it's part of the karen evolution