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Meet a woman who married herself

"I'm married to myself because I think that's where every relationship begins." Here’s why some women are choosing self-marriage.

Instead of a groom

Erika Anderson is married to herself. While not legally recognized, self-marriage is a form of empowerment. Since 1990, marriage has declined by 8% while divorce rates have tripled according to reports from The Pew Center.

Undoing the patriarchy that ascribes value to women and assigned it to herself

“I think different people use different terms, self-partnership, self-marriage. But yeah, I'm married to myself because I think that's where every relationship begins. And also, there's so much pressure to be with someone else to prove that you're okay and that nothing is wrong with you. And I think that's a pretty awful reason to be with someone else. So, I partnered up. I’ve often heard since I left my marriage that I’m a “catch.” So, I decided that today I’m catching myself. So, thank you for being here for this sort of ridiculous stunt, but also meaningful thing, too. Women have more economic freedom than ever before, we're marrying later, we're not getting married, we're having kids later, we're not having kids. We just have so much choice in a way that we've never had it before. And so, essentially why use that time or that freedom to just be narrowly focused on finding a soulmate or "Mr. Right," or "whoever Right." And yeah, I was like, "Oh, why don't I just use that freedom to marry myself?" Like I wanted to tell myself that I was enough, that I didn't have to be on this constant search for someone else in the picture”, Erika Anderson tells Brut.

Destroying the institution of marriage

A growing number of young women are using self-marriage to negate the idea that their worth is tied to partnership. Anderson's untraditional ceremony involved a wedding dress, vows, a bracelet instead of rings.

Brut.

01/12/2020 10:57 AM
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175 comments

  • Erman T.
    14 hours

    What happens when They go to bed with a male Are we going to call it self-cheating

  • Dexter P.
    17 hours

    You dont have to get married to be important or loved...but what the duck is this shit😂🤣😂

  • Dimitra D.
    20 hours

    So stupid

  • Moses A.
    21 hours

    I LOVE U BB

  • Tony C.
    a day

    Today, everything is stupid. So why not.

  • Chimaobi H.
    a day

    Look at them! Women jst make me laugh when they get frustrated with life. They react to frustration in so many funny ways! Especially when they claim they can be alone forever without any man! Dum! Dum! Smh!

  • Mohamedsalem M.
    a day

    Self-marriage is an asinine idea.

  • Lovin K.
    a day

    Beautiful message gal.

  • Mellage D.
    a day

    Beautiful message to all of us, I must do the same, I failed to make it, and in the end I left alone with the broken hearted, but I survived 😢😢😢😢😢😢

  • Smit H.
    a day

    Us men are stepping back and saying: “whatever makes you ladies happy, but leave us out”.... ps...don’t forget the bread at the store - you make the best sandwiches 😘🥴😂😂😂

  • Winn I.
    a day

    The unlucky one caught the bouquet the rest run for their lives

  • Nigel S.
    a day

    Ohh she single

  • Zaal T.
    2 days

    Why can't you married me tho i mean you are nice woman who dicever man

  • Joseph G.
    2 days

    Shes the hunband the tyme awife now whom wl she produce children for.

  • Rube J.
    2 days

    How can u marry urself???i think dat woman has a serious problem

  • Maimuna S.
    2 days

    Weird ppl

  • Justice N.
    2 days

    Please remember to take your meds when the guests are home.... meanwhile you sound so depressed ☻🤣

  • Tonny T.
    2 days

    Am looking a serious woman for marriage am serious very serious.even if that is serious please come to meeee in box

  • Darrell N.
    2 days

    She’s nuts .

  • Tyson A.
    3 days

    Holy hell what an idiot