Meet a woman who married herself

"I'm married to myself because I think that's where every relationship begins." Here’s why some women are choosing self-marriage.

Instead of a groom

Erika Anderson is married to herself. While not legally recognized, self-marriage is a form of empowerment. Since 1990, marriage has declined by 8% while divorce rates have tripled according to reports from The Pew Center.

Undoing the patriarchy that ascribes value to women and assigned it to herself

“I think different people use different terms, self-partnership, self-marriage. But yeah, I'm married to myself because I think that's where every relationship begins. And also, there's so much pressure to be with someone else to prove that you're okay and that nothing is wrong with you. And I think that's a pretty awful reason to be with someone else. So, I partnered up. I’ve often heard since I left my marriage that I’m a “catch.” So, I decided that today I’m catching myself. So, thank you for being here for this sort of ridiculous stunt, but also meaningful thing, too. Women have more economic freedom than ever before, we're marrying later, we're not getting married, we're having kids later, we're not having kids. We just have so much choice in a way that we've never had it before. And so, essentially why use that time or that freedom to just be narrowly focused on finding a soulmate or "Mr. Right," or "whoever Right." And yeah, I was like, "Oh, why don't I just use that freedom to marry myself?" Like I wanted to tell myself that I was enough, that I didn't have to be on this constant search for someone else in the picture”, Erika Anderson tells Brut.

Destroying the institution of marriage

A growing number of young women are using self-marriage to negate the idea that their worth is tied to partnership. Anderson's untraditional ceremony involved a wedding dress, vows, a bracelet instead of rings.


01/12/2020 10:57 AM


  • Atiq K.
    09/18/2020 14:46

    So why use the word “marriage”

  • John L.
    09/12/2020 07:29

    Hope she had a nice honeymoon with her self 🥕

  • Julie S.
    09/12/2020 06:31

    Now that is just weird! If you are happy being single why are you getting married and to yourself. 🙄

  • John S.
    09/11/2020 01:58

    Stupidity is a ...virtue 😀😀

  • Nosheen R.
    09/10/2020 05:45

    What an idiotic person!

  • Belden M.
    09/09/2020 20:52


  • Paul E.
    09/09/2020 20:38

    We are to be married with Christ

  • Mohamed F.
    09/09/2020 18:54

    Wonder what will come next?

  • Rosa M.
    09/09/2020 15:55


  • Scott B.
    09/09/2020 11:53

    Can't wait for the divorce.....

  • Crystal H.
    09/09/2020 11:28

    My married friends feel bad for me for being single. But, I have to hear how unhappy they are all the time. Don't get me wrong I've been married 3 times. I was taught to be married.i grew up Evengelical. It took me a long time to realize that was someone else's goal for me. I have nothing against marriage. But, it's no longer my GOAL. Im fine being single. I don't feel anything is missing. 😁

  • TheKing B.
    09/09/2020 09:57

    Maybe she's just bad in relationship so she married herself

  • Liban K.
    09/09/2020 09:31

    When you used to masturbate who was with you? You are now doing the same so nothing is new😂😂😂

  • Steven K.
    09/09/2020 09:09

    "There's so much pressure to be with someone else to prove that you're ok and that nothing is wrong with you" Gets married to herself lol

  • Jacob K.
    09/09/2020 06:13

    Interesting 🤔

  • Mario N.
    09/09/2020 04:23

    People will do anything for attention nowadays.

  • Liz K.
    09/09/2020 03:20

    I married myself just so I could register at the liquor store for gifts. Worked like a charm.

  • Maria S.
    09/09/2020 02:04


  • Ozy M.
    09/09/2020 01:59

    Thats crazy!!..Don't you have desire and needs.??!!😉

  • Ethel R.
    09/09/2020 01:58

    I can relate, and I love it. ❤

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