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Meet a woman who married herself

"I'm married to myself because I think that's where every relationship begins." Here’s why some women are choosing self-marriage.

Instead of a groom

Erika Anderson is married to herself. While not legally recognized, self-marriage is a form of empowerment. Since 1990, marriage has declined by 8% while divorce rates have tripled according to reports from The Pew Center.

Undoing the patriarchy that ascribes value to women and assigned it to herself

“I think different people use different terms, self-partnership, self-marriage. But yeah, I'm married to myself because I think that's where every relationship begins. And also, there's so much pressure to be with someone else to prove that you're okay and that nothing is wrong with you. And I think that's a pretty awful reason to be with someone else. So, I partnered up. I’ve often heard since I left my marriage that I’m a “catch.” So, I decided that today I’m catching myself. So, thank you for being here for this sort of ridiculous stunt, but also meaningful thing, too. Women have more economic freedom than ever before, we're marrying later, we're not getting married, we're having kids later, we're not having kids. We just have so much choice in a way that we've never had it before. And so, essentially why use that time or that freedom to just be narrowly focused on finding a soulmate or "Mr. Right," or "whoever Right." And yeah, I was like, "Oh, why don't I just use that freedom to marry myself?" Like I wanted to tell myself that I was enough, that I didn't have to be on this constant search for someone else in the picture”, Erika Anderson tells Brut.

Destroying the institution of marriage

A growing number of young women are using self-marriage to negate the idea that their worth is tied to partnership. Anderson's untraditional ceremony involved a wedding dress, vows, a bracelet instead of rings.

Brut.

01/12/2020 10:57 AM
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236 comments

  • David S.
    02/29/2020 02:48

    What a ridiculous concept. 🙄

  • Bob C.
    02/28/2020 02:59

    You just need to find your partner in crime

  • Aaron B.
    02/27/2020 08:00

    Im signing us up.

  • Yuri Q.
    02/26/2020 17:02

    Omg

  • Allan G.
    02/26/2020 16:21

    PATHETIC..

  • Anne A.
    02/25/2020 12:13

    Can you now file a joint tax return?

  • AL S.
    02/25/2020 03:21

    ENJOY YOUR VIBRATOR !

  • Edwin P.
    02/24/2020 21:15

    Being single fine. Being "married" to ones self, I just do not see the reason to bother.

  • Dan N.
    02/24/2020 00:42

    Can she claim herself and herself as a dependent on her Federal tax return? Hmm

  • Amanda F.
    02/23/2020 22:10

    Just keep spare batteries on hand. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z_cvzktclDY

  • Jessica Z.
    02/23/2020 19:48

    Lmfao wtf

  • John P.
    02/23/2020 19:18

    I’ll take psychotic broads for $300 Alex.

  • Sheneetha H.
    02/23/2020 04:42

    Omg I said I would do this years ago! Lol

  • Nicholas R.
    02/22/2020 02:56

    A mature adult is comfortable with the basic fact that he is an individual, with strengths and weaknesses, because this is the reality of being alive. A confused wimp finds it necessary to stage a ceremony casting his individuality as a matter of choice.

  • Ant S.
    02/20/2020 22:22

    Ahmed Make sure you watch her ending statement

  • Andrea D.
    02/20/2020 02:46

    Solution....learn what it takes to sustain a marriage & talk to older married couples and pray alot.

  • Sarah J.
    02/19/2020 18:41

    I would love to hear what you think of this 😂 i can sense the eye rolling already

  • Elena S.
    02/19/2020 16:48

    People do anything for attention. 😃

  • Eric G.
    02/19/2020 14:46

    imagine being so insufferable that you just give up and start telling yourself it's fine to be alone....FOREVER...no man is an island, people need families. this is peak degeneracy.

  • Petrina D.
    02/18/2020 21:39

    Sicko