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Meet a woman who married herself

"I'm married to myself because I think that's where every relationship begins." Here’s why some women are choosing self-marriage.

Instead of a groom

Erika Anderson is married to herself. While not legally recognized, self-marriage is a form of empowerment. Since 1990, marriage has declined by 8% while divorce rates have tripled according to reports from The Pew Center.

Undoing the patriarchy that ascribes value to women and assigned it to herself

“I think different people use different terms, self-partnership, self-marriage. But yeah, I'm married to myself because I think that's where every relationship begins. And also, there's so much pressure to be with someone else to prove that you're okay and that nothing is wrong with you. And I think that's a pretty awful reason to be with someone else. So, I partnered up. I’ve often heard since I left my marriage that I’m a “catch.” So, I decided that today I’m catching myself. So, thank you for being here for this sort of ridiculous stunt, but also meaningful thing, too. Women have more economic freedom than ever before, we're marrying later, we're not getting married, we're having kids later, we're not having kids. We just have so much choice in a way that we've never had it before. And so, essentially why use that time or that freedom to just be narrowly focused on finding a soulmate or "Mr. Right," or "whoever Right." And yeah, I was like, "Oh, why don't I just use that freedom to marry myself?" Like I wanted to tell myself that I was enough, that I didn't have to be on this constant search for someone else in the picture”, Erika Anderson tells Brut.

Destroying the institution of marriage

A growing number of young women are using self-marriage to negate the idea that their worth is tied to partnership. Anderson's untraditional ceremony involved a wedding dress, vows, a bracelet instead of rings.

Brut.

01/12/2020 10:57 AM

10 comments

  • Nana A.
    05/03/2021 13:42

    How you doing dear

  • Okonko S.
    03/22/2021 23:57

    Neece

  • Augusto P.
    02/16/2021 12:30

    What? 🤦🏻‍♂️ is the challenge to be alone so hard? This is just an inside desperate scream for a mate

  • Brinda R.
    02/15/2021 22:21

    Those same Christian Right people have a hard time keeping their own marriages and affairs in check but sure, she’s the problem. 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

  • Tony W.
    02/15/2021 09:59

    The wall is undefeated

  • Joyel S.
    02/15/2021 00:42

    Awesome

  • Lana L.
    02/15/2021 00:34

    I would do it if I could claim the Married deduction.

  • Joseph S.
    02/15/2021 00:22

    What the Xanax is this?!

  • Victory V.
    02/15/2021 00:18

    Thumbs up dearie, so much pressure these days on people this days on people that are not yet married that have pushed them to terrible situations .

  • Suan T.
    02/15/2021 00:13

    What the....‼️

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