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Why do sexual assault victims stay silent?

Why do sexual assault victims stay silent? This psychologist tackles that and the culture of victim-blaming in this timely interview.

09/25/2018 11:01 PM

18 comments

  • Jacinta L.
    12/31/2020 16:10

    I put my life on Facebook this week because I need the demons to stop abusing me. I have been raped & given disease because I accepted a date from a cop. MY AP when I was a teacher asked me for sex. I was fired because I refuse. TOJ SDA church & my family used me as a slave & bully me. The teenagers who were hanging outside my door this month finally stopped. I am glad because they were also smoking stuff. Perhaps that was the next chapter from being raped by the police asking me for a date & having an A.P. at Smith H.S ask me for sex & fired cause I refused. Perhaps the police officer who raped me & gave me venereal diseases has been telling people that I gave them to him & Y the Math A.p at Smith h.s asked me for sex & they fired me cause I refused and also why these neighbors have made sure I haven't slept since moving here in 2006 Who knows perhaps the police officer who raped me & gave me venereal diseases has been telling people that I gave them to him & was the reason The Math A.p at Smith h.s asked me for sex & they fired me cause I refused and also why these neighbors have made sure I haven't slept since moving here in 2006. I was wrong to try to kill myself in 1981 by jumping off the roof of that 6 story building after jane adams H.S messed up my schooling even though I wrote the DOE & they gave me a transfer. I did do everything for myself when I got home but SDA & family used me as a slave & maid. No one respected me after 1981 or months before they started destroying me this will not stop them from abusing me...All I can do is try to keep telling the truth. People lie, steal, cheat, & do everything dishonest to be where they are today and that is what will keep them there also. I am sorry buy like everyone else I saw them do it. I guess that policemen raped me give me aids & all the other vd that he had did it cause he can like all the other evils I have had done to me I can only try to help myself -there is no help for people like me who are poor disabled people who have been abused used & destroyed. that cop raped me & gave me aids & my Supervisor at Smith h.s when i was a teacher asked me for sex I reported it the school gave a false bad evaluation to fired me. I have been living at 600 concord ave 5j in the bronx where the neighbors make noise all night long every night that cop raped me & gave me aids. my Supervisor at Smith h.s when I taught asked me for sex I reported it; the school gave me a false bad evaluation & fired me; been living at 600 concord ave 5j bronx where the neighbors all night every night make noise all night long keep me up I was wrong to try to kill myself in 1981 by jumping off the roof of that 6 story building after jane adams H.S messed up my schooling even though I wrote the DOE & they gave me a transfer. I did do everything for myself when I got home but SDA & family used me as a slave & made. No one respected me after 1981 or months before they started destroying me this will not stop them from abusing me...All I can do is try to keep telling the truth. People lie, steal, cheat, & do everything dishonest to be where they are today and that is what will keep them there also. I am sorry buy like everyone else I saw them do it. I haven't dated since I got married after that cop raped me and gave me aids and my Supervisor at Smith h.s when i was a teacher asked me for sex I reported it and the school gave a false bad evaluation of me fired me and I have been living here now at 600 concord ave 5j in the bronx and all the neighbors do is make noise all night long to make sure that I do not sleep & reporting the noise I have no way to prove leads no where. I am so tired. I can only try to help myself and there is no help for people like me who are poor disabled people who have been abused used and destroyed. God is good. Perhaps it is bullying but people who I spoke to these past 2 months would say things about me that were untrue & aggressively act as if I should be too afraid of them to correct them. I hardly or no one really speaks to me. ....There goes the next door moneys again. I am going to try to sleep no matter what I do not know if I should try to call 311 again. I try to do it no more than 2x in any month. As I said calling 311 doesn't stop the neighbors from waking me up every hour or the other patterns that they do. Sometimes I even try to turn the music above their noise but that is rarely & doesn't work. This week I opened the window. Oh well the fresh air is good. I am disabled s on the even lowere list in society & me telling what happened to me in my life on social media will increase me being harrassed. These neighbors will never stop harrassing me. There is no way to prove their harrassment and I cannot move from 600 concord ave apt#5j. With me telling how horrible my life is in the SDA religion, Jane Adams h. s or the department of education & the police & doctors,... well finish it. No 1 respect me after 1981 or before they started destroying me this will not stop them from abusing me...All I can do is try to keep telling the truth. People lie, steal, cheat, & do everything dishonest to be where they are today and that is what will keep them there also. The year that I reported Mr. Sow from Smith H.S. where I worked the 4 year that I was a Math teacher, asking me for sex. That was about 8 or so years after that police officer raped me & I was married. My life turned into chaos The department well Smith H.S in the bronx anyway was now lying on me and making me out to be a bad teacher because I reported Mr. Sow, my dog had bitten my niece, my life was looking too good for those who have been destroying my life all along so now it was doctors turn. Yep the doctors were telling me that I had to get a surgery that I did not need but I had so many problems I could not get out f this one. They were telling me that I had fibroids. I had never had fibroids & no one ever came close to telling me anything like that. My sister had it 15 years or so before & that went no where. these doctors were telling me and my sister agreed that I needed a Hysterectomy. I had too may lies being told about me and to me to think I couldn't stop it. I was able to not take the pain killers that they tried to give me for years for my legs. I had figured out natural ways to reduce pain. The SDA church promoted natural things & I researched things on my own. I said 1000 times after Smith H.S. lies & my marriage dissolved how unnecessary & wicked that Hysterectomy that those doctors gave me. I wish I who knows that abusive man may have been right..

  • Shakirah P.
    06/17/2020 04:21

    ayan intindihin mo

  • Amber M.
    09/30/2018 17:24

    i’d say show dad but he has his republican blinders on...

  • Adriance d.
    09/28/2018 22:28

    Thank you

  • Diane K.
    09/28/2018 11:48

    thx for sharing this, debby

  • Liz K.
    09/28/2018 11:32

    With so many people unearthing and sharing painful stories for the first time, and not being silent, would be helpful for a follow up video that demystifies the healing process—therapies like EMDR (and others?), the cost to victims of such therapies, the extent to which health insurance will cover it, how to get help if you don’t have insurance, reputable resources people can access to find help. Now that sharing is being demystified, I hope healing for victims is next on the agenda.

  • Mak M.
    09/28/2018 03:25

    13

  • Brian S.
    09/28/2018 02:25

    Wait, is this real assault or is it because someone’s feelings got hurt? Cuz apparently that’s assault now too

  • Sabrina K.
    09/27/2018 23:31

    Yes, Thank you for posting this. We are hear for you. Stop the Silence

  • Jeanine F.
    09/27/2018 11:26

    Et la traduction

  • Candace B.
    09/27/2018 03:53

    Thank you for posting this. I needed this.

  • Andy L.
    09/27/2018 02:33

    Hurt

  • Mark S.
    09/27/2018 02:31

    How many black men have wrongfully accused of rape?

  • Denise B.
    09/26/2018 21:27

    thought you might find woman interesting.

  • Sergio A.
    09/26/2018 20:42

    I am not in any way shape or form in agreement with taking advantage of a female by a man, BUT, reality is that, same way a more powerful man takes advantage of a less powerful one. We need to understand that is how this universe works. A more powerful reef eats a less powerful one, a black hole will eat a planet, shark will eat the powerful man if he is in te water. So don’t be a powerful women who puts her selve in the jaws of a mighty shark

  • Nancy A.
    09/26/2018 16:58

    , thank you so much for this.

  • Keegan B.
    09/26/2018 11:32

    yeah except for the woman who life and are caught doing so. it's innocent until proven guilty you facists

  • Ciane V.
    09/26/2018 04:29

    Thank you.

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